How to Let Go and Let God

How to let go and let God. Free Worksheets!

Just give it up.

We hear it all the time. Let go, and let God.

But what does that even mean?

“You want me to let go of this problem that is consuming me and just give it up? If I knew how do you really think it would still be consuming me? How do you even do that? Do you just stop and forget about it? Am I supposed to tuck it under a rug and go on with my life like nothing happened? Am I just supposed to move on? Is this literal, or mental? Do I physically have to do something to LET GO? Obviously, if this problem is on my mind there is an actual reason and you are telling me to let it go???”

We have all been there. We hear the words LET GO and LET GOD and we are like, “Whelp, let me get right on that. Don’t you think if I knew how to do that, it would already be gone?”

So in this post I am going to break it down for you, exactly how to let go and let God. This is a simple but difficult process. The difficulty lies in surrendering our hearts and circumstances to God. This step by step guide can help you release your issue to God, but you have to be willing.

First off, let’s be clear! You cannot let go of something by ignoring it! You cannot dust something under the rug and move on. Well, of course you can but it won’t be very successful. It will eventually creep back up in some other area of your life. Trust me, I have tried this and failed. Ignoring problems is never a solution. Ignoring problems only makes root issues worse. The enemy wants us to think it is ok to ignore and move on, so we can be kept in bondage. That way he can use it later in your life to shame or guilt you.

If you stuff and stuff your heart with things that you keep ignoring, it will get full and explode. We need to get the junk out! We need to stay cleaned out so God can live there. Which is why we need to learn how to let go and let God.

We are looking for FREEDOM and in freedom we have VICTORY. In order to experience freedom we need to feel to heal. We actually have to deal with things (ugh I know, who wants to feel the pain?) But feeling is therapeutic. Let’s be people who feel all the junk so we can get rid of all the junk.

This guide is written with the understanding that God is Jesus. The Holy Spirit is the true healer and comforter. He is the one that sets us free. He is the one that helps us heal. We NEED His power and grace to experience victory.

Each step of this guide can be as in depth as you need. You can do this process in your head for small problems that occur. For bigger issues that are heavy on your heart, take some extra time and care on each step. If you still find yourself hung up. Repeat the process. Growth is ongoing.  

*Credit due: This process was revealed to me by a process I learned through training at New Life Spirit Recovery.

 

The How to Guide to Let Go and Let God

1. Identify

Let’s identify what circumstance we are working on. Pinpoint exactly which situation/person/thing is causing your heart trouble. If you have a whole lot going on you may need to break this up in smaller sections.  Only look at one situation at a time. This way you can really release it.  If your boss is irritating you, your husband is not meeting your needs, and your best friend found a great sale without telling you, I would suggest doing each circumstance separately.  Each situation needs its own healing. Identify the situation going on.  The first step in releasing a problem, is identifying the problem.

 

2. Pray

Time to pray in the big guy. Y’all we can’t do this on our own! We need His power to overcome. Honestly, what we do in our own strength is obsess over problems or sweep  it under the rug. We honestly don’t have the strength to deal with these things on our own.  That is why we need a savior. We need the true counselor in every situation. Invite Him into this one.  We are made strong in our weakness.

Prayer- Lord God, I invite you into this moment. I praise you for being the true healer and the true comforter! I ask your Holy Spirit to guide me and be with me in this moment of evaluation. Please reveal whatever needs to come to the surface. Please expose lies from the enemy and heal my heart with your truth.  I need your Holy spirit power to overcome this situation. I praise you for the healing that is about to happen. Cleanse my heart. In Jesus name, Amen.

 

3. Remember

Now let’s evaluate the situation. This is the juicy section. Go back in time with God and run through what happened in this situation. Try journaling or writing it out. You can write down the stories in full detail or you can mentally just evaluate the circumstance. My experience writing is healing. Try picking up a pen and go where The Holy Spirit leads you. Pay attention to your feelings, how you dealt with them and what the circumstance told you. Don’t avoid the negative feelings. Focus in on these!

 

4. Check Yo heart

Time to do a heart check. Evaluate your feelings. Take a good mental look at your feelings, at your actions, and at what this circumstance told your heart. Try to get deep here. If you just touch the surface you will only receive healing on the surface. In this world we pick up a lot of lies.  Examine what you felt and what lies may have come to surface. These lies could come from how you perceived the situation or what actually transpired. We want to catch these lies as soon as we start to hear them. For example: If your daughter cut your hair it may have told you the lie that you are not beautiful. If your husband isn’t meeting your needs it may cause you to feel rejected and unloved. Your boss didn’t like your idea  you may have felt inadequate or worthless. Dig deep here. This takes honesty and vulnerability. Be honest with yourself. Feeling the pain will help you heal from the pain.  Write these lies down.

 

5. Get an Eternal Perspective

Examine this situation from God’s eyes.  Remember this is just between you and God. Ask God to strip off your blinders and let you see the situation through His eyes.  Look for all the brokenness. Look for the spiritual side of the situation.  Don’t forget that God is love and grace. See the situation through love and grace like He does.

 

6. Correct

Next we want to correct those lies! Look at all the lies this situation caused in your heart. Look at all the feelings you perceived. Take those lies that you wrote down and compare them to God’s truth. What God says about you is truth. What the bible says about you is truth. Who God says who you are, is real. Your identity is in God. So take those lies and turn them into a truth. Those lies are from the pits of hell. Those lies are false. The battle is in our mind. And we need to rebuke those lies. We have to take every thought captive to live a free life.  The only thing that battles lies is knowing the truth.

For example: Lie: My husband’s not meeting my needs I feel unloved. Truth: The God of the universe loves me unconditionally. 1 John 3:1 See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are.

 

7. Forgive

Forgiveness is an act of obedience. We are called to forgive. God has forgiven us for so much, so we are called to forgive others.  You will not find healing in a situation until you forgive.

Ask yourself: Was there other people in this circumstance that you need to forgive? Do you need to forgive yourself? Do you need to accept God’s forgiveness?

Sometimes we can’t even understand how we can forgive a person. But forgiveness is supernatural. Forgiveness is an act. It is a choice to pray for someone. It is a choice to humble ourselves enough to forgive. Sometimes you won’t even feel the heart change. But the decision of forgiving someone will start to heal your heart. I recommend writing a letter to whomever you are forgiving. (This can even be yourself.) And then praying for the person. It is REALLY hard to stay upset at someone after you pray for them. No need to go and tell the person, unless you are called. Forgiveness is not saying you’re sorry. It is the decision to forgive, which can stay with you and God. This step is just between you and God.

 

8. Release

Release this whole situation to God. Pray over the event, the lies you rebuked, and the truth you claim. Pray over your heart and ask God to come in ALL of it. Ask Him to cleanse your heart of this situation. Give God permission to take this from you. Pray out loud over this situation. Out loud, so the enemy can hear he no longer has control over this area!

Prayer- Lord Jesus, I thank you for your grace. I thank you that by your stripes I am healed. I lift this circumstance up to you. I am laying this burden at the foot of the cross. I pray for you to have your way in it. I give you permission to take this from me. I thank you for revealing all the lies this circumstance brought up. I rebuke those lies. If I gave the enemy any permission at all in my heart, I pray you would remove it by the blood of Jesus. I thank you that by the blood, I am covered. I claim my identity in you. I claim these truths (insert truths here.) I ask your grace to be poured down. I am choosing to forgive _________. I thank you for giving me the opportunity to heal and grow in you. I praise you for being bigger than my circumstance. In Jesus Name. Amen             

 

Free worksheets!If necessary repeat process. I would love to tell you that once you go through this you will never have to deal with it again. But we are human and growing is an ongoing process. Sometimes we have to keep peeling off layers to find true freedom. Remember that if this issue comes up again, it is covered by the blood. You can tell the enemy to get off your back that this is already God’s!

I have attached a (freebie) worksheet that you can use to break down these steps. If you are like me, you will need a ton of extra paper to work through it. I honestly think the process of letting go & letting God should be done on a daily basis. We need to stay cleaned out in this world. And let’s get honest sometimes this world is ROUGH. The goal is to make this a habit! So you can get to the point that when issues come up, you can release them to God, right away in your mind. We identify, we pray, we walk down memory lane, we recognize lies, we rebuke those lies, we claim truth, we forgive, we release, and we heal.

This blog is about living for victory. We already have the victory in Him it is just learning to claim it. To live in victory we have to be intentional about growing up in God.  We only consistently heal when we consistently grow. We can not get complacent. I am praying this guide helps you release issues to God so you can stay cleaned out and be fruitful with on going healing.

Take action: I am challenging you right now to do this! Let go & let God! Go through this process on something that has been on your mind. And then leave me a comment to tell me what you experienced. Is this a process you will continue? I would love to hear the ways that you release issues to God! If you have any tips for us, please leave a comment.
I dare you to do this once a day for the next five days and tell me how your walk has changed.

Scripture this post is based on:

“Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens.” -Psalm 68:19

“Be careful for nothing, but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep you hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”- Philippians 4:6-7

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:31-32

“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”- John 8:32

“Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”- 1Peter 5:7

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I am a late-20-something daughter of the King. I live for Jesus, love my family, drink coffee, blog with heart, and craft with purpose. After being saved and set free from addiction, co-dependency, depression, and anxiety, I created Her Sword with intentions to help women like YOU in the battle called everyday life.

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I am a late-20-something daughter of the King. I live for Jesus, love my family, drink coffee, blog with heart, and craft with purpose. After being saved and set free from addiction, co-dependency, depression, and anxiety, I created Her Sword with intentions to help women like YOU in the battle called everyday life.

110 thoughts on “How to Let Go and Let God

  1. What handy and awesome worksheets! I will be printing those and using them in the future not if, but WHEN I need them! Thank you, sister. You are amazing.

  2. I’m at the airport right now and couldn’t help but to yell out YES when I was reading this. I love how you broke it down for us. So helpful!

    1. My goal was to be simple so that people could get in a habit of giving up issues easily. Especially when some of our issues get to be so complicated they are hard to let go. Thanks for taking time to comment!!

  3. Great post – the simplicity and straight-forward appraoch are excellent! I plan to keep this post bookmarked and the worksheet handy. Thanks so much.

  4. Aly, this is awesome! I know this…most of it…but why do I forget until I am totally miserable! I need to print these out and put them where I can see them. I need to let go more, control is so over-rated!!! Thanks so much!

    1. Hi Nikki! Thanks for stopping by! I know it’s easy to forget, that’s why I have to live intentionally or I will keep everything inside and then want to explode. Let me know how they work once you use them!

  5. So happy I stumbled upon this blog post. It was exactly what I needed to help me work through some lies of the enemy that I had taken to heart. Thank you for being obedient and sharing what the Lord has laid on your heart.

  6. Loving this: “You cannot let go of something by ignoring it! In order to experience freedom we need to feel to heal. We actually have to deal with things…” I also love how you explained that forgiveness is an act. That’s so important and we often forget that! Thank you for another wonderful post, Aly! Xo – Deidre

  7. Hi Aly:

    While I’m not a “religious” person per se, I believe strongly in the importance of giving some things up to something larger than ourselves. I’ve seen this work in my life so many times – when I just throw up my hands and say – hey! I can’t! A little help please! And I also feel like forgiveness is so healing. I appreciate this reminder about both giving and asking for it.

    Cheers,

    Amy

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  9. i love this so much, when I was dealing with my major health problems back 4 years ago, I just knew I needed to let go and let God…
    No it isn’t easy because I am the type who has to feel in control all the time, I need to know what is happening or not happening.

    Thanks for this

    1. Terri, I hope your health problems got cured! This process is simple, yet so so difficult for our human hearts to grasp! Let me know if you end up using the process and it helps!

  10. Nice post. I remember when I first came to Christ 12 years ago I was crying in a bible study and a lady said, “Just give it to God”. I remember I got angry with her because she made it sound so simple and I had NO idea what she meant. It isn’t simple is it? there are many steps… but once you figure out the steps its easy 🙂

    1. Rene I totally get it. Sometimes when you are in the midst of an emotion you just need to feel the emotion! It can be frustrating to hear, “Give it to God!.” Feeling is so necessary to heal, and then we can work through it and release it!

  11. Great post. You’re a good preacher there. Great breakdown and illustrations. This should become a way of life as you pointed out. It truly can become a normal way of thinking cause I do it. Naturally, some things take longer than others though.

    1. Love that it’s a way of life to you! It totes can become normal. But it does take consistent training of taking it to God. And thanks I’m not a preacher but maybe one day 🙌🏻😁.

  12. Fabulous explanation of an important phrase we too often use glibly. “Sometimes this world is ROUGH”? My goodness, when is it not? 🙂 I’m very happy to have found you and I shall certainly return.

  13. I really love how you were able to simplify such a tough concept to grasp. My favorite part was the reminder that we cannot just bury these things & ignore them. It’s so important to identify them and then move through the steps to “let it go”.

  14. I was in a ladies’ counseling training for a week and one of the bits of advice I really latched onto is, during times of great distress and trial we ought not to dwell on our misfortune or problem. She suggested we consider our options for five minutes, decide on the route we will take to solve the problem or fix the circumstance and then divert our thinking elsewhere, preferably to something lighter. I’ve done it and it works. That definitely opens us up to trusting God more to work, and rely more on Him but still be a part of the solution. Dwelling leads to worse things. “Think on these things” isn’t just a suggestion.

    1. Awesome, I am a counselor! Every one has there own techniques. Thankfully Jesus is our true counselor, when we invite him in He does most the healing. Thanks for the comment!

  15. Surrender is such a hard part of the Christian faith but it’s what we’re called to do so we can live in freedom. So often I find that I think I’ve surrendered something but there are still parts of me that were holding on. I need to constantly remind myself of God’s truths and promises through the difficult times!

    1. Allison- great name by the way 😁. I agree some times it’s an on going process of standing firm when the past rises back up! Thanks for commenting

  16. Great article! Sometimes we are so overcome by our trial that we cannot see the simple (not easy!) steps. You did a great job of breaking them down!
    I love the name of your blog and look forward to looking around!

  17. Growing up, I always worried and worried about things. As an adult, I try not to worry and to give God control over situations and problems I encounter. Thank you for this reminder and for sharing your steps!

  18. Thank you so much! While I’ve had success in letting things go to God I’ve also not had success in letting things go to God. And I’ve never run across such clear, simple steps to facilitate the process. My successes usually come when my pain level gets high but it would be great to do this before reaching that level.

    And the worksheets are lovely! Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so glad I found your post!

    Many blessings upon you, Aly!

  19. This message is perfectly timed for me a this present moment of my life. This is exactly what God has been working with me on. I thought that I had learned this lesson many years ago, but what I’ve found is that I did learn the lesson, but now God is taking me into a deeper level of the same lesson. Wow!!

  20. This is a great post to keep tacked up as a reminder to daily do these things. Sometimes you just have to give it up to God because you know you can’t do it alone. Knowing that He has my best in mind, and better than I can even imagine, it helps to know that God knows what needs to be done and helps me to do the right thing.

  21. This is such a nice post. I love the scripture you’ve used to help explain & the step by step. As a Christian myself, I have many times struggled to “let go” & not pick back up. So many times we think we’ve given it over to the Lord, but are still holding onto some little aspect of the situation/anger/fear/etc. I think this post will be a tremendous help to your readers!

  22. I was so excited to finally get to your link and your post didn’t disappoint. Girl, I feel like we are sisters from another mister… but then we are sisters by the same MISTER – Christ! I love everything about this Blog and the guide to help with solid practical way to Let go and Trust God. LOVE, Love, LOVE!!!

  23. Surrendering is much easier said than done. We live in a culture that is so very “me-centered”. “Casting those cares” is effort. You did a beautiful job of breaking it down into the necessary steps for full surrender. We can do one or two or three of these things and still grasp tightly or snatch back something we completely desire to give up. It can be defeating. Thanks for taking the time to put something so meaty and helpful together!

  24. Love the post! #5 and #6 are hardest for me. I want to see things only from my perspective when I’m hurt and it’s hard to ask God to see things from his perspective. 🙂

    This commentathon is challenging in a good way. There’s been a couple posts that have really hit home for my relationship with God! 🙂

  25. I had a bad habit of saying that I was letting things go and taking them right back. I had to learn that God won’t work things out if you keep taking them back, holding on to them, and worrying.

  26. This is a lovely article and you have a lovely website. I’ve always heard, it’s hard to be upset with someone who you pray for so pray for whoever you are upset with or whoever hurt you.

  27. So simple, so easy, but so difficult, too. I tend to kneel at the throne, offer my problems, thank Him for His grace and help, then pick up my problems and walk away with them. The hardest part, sometimes, is the letting go. He has taught me, through many trials, that I need to constantly release them back to Him. He can handle anything I set before Him. In fact, He should handle everything I deal with.
    Thank you for your guidance.

  28. Thanks for sharing the good tips! I am adding this to my reading list, to go thru step by step when I have more time. There are some things Ive been holding on to. Need to let it go. Thanks

  29. While reading this I thought of two passages I love, yielding ourselves to God in Romans 6:13. And letting Christ bare our bueden for His burdens are light. Allowing God to control us and our situation is huge when facing difficulties like this. May we all gain victory in Christ. Thank you for this post.

  30. Great job of breaking this out! You’re right – it is a process. We can’t just sweep it under a rug and forget about it. We won’t heal that way. God will help us work through it if we allow Him to.

  31. I absolutely love this. I have definitely been on the receiving end of this statement and just felt so discouraged because HOW in the world do you do that? As a control freak, it’s tough for me to let anything go! Your break down is beautifully done, though. So glad I read it!

  32. Thank you for taking the time to write this post; it’s a great message and one we could all benefit from learning. I tend to get stuck on the “release” portion of the process. I think I’ve let go of things when I really haven’t. Gonna work on it, though! 🙂 XOXO, Erin

  33. I just love how the Holy Spirit works! I was just searing on Pinterest for let go and let God and your blog came up let me tell you what a blessing it was just what I needed!! Feeling so much more loved right now! True freedom can only be found it Christ our King!!

  34. I just want to say Thank You, I heard the words from my family the day I laid my dad to rest this coming Friday will be 4 months. They said Let It Go and Let God. I plan on using your worksheets as part of my prayer journal that I have started right before Halloween.
    There is a lot of healing that I will need to do and your worksheets will help me through my grief process.
    Thank you,
    Leticia

  35. The Holy spirit brought up to the light some deep hurt and sin in my life and marriage this Lent and I felt so broken and overwhelmed by it all. He walked me through all the dirt that we’ve swept under the rug for years. I didn’t know HOW to let it go and give it to God. I didn’t think I ever could let go of control in this difficult issue in our marriage. After days of this agony, and praying, and begging God for help; this morning I wake up to find this post linked to another post I was reading on Pinterest (God works in mysterious ways!). Just what I needed!! I walked through all your beautifully written steps with prayer and the Holy Spirit flooded me and brought such great healing! There will be a long journey ahead and I will still need to let go and let God on a daily basis. Now I feel like I have hope. Thank you for being a conduit of the Holy Spirit and a beacon of light to this lost and suffering soul. May God bless you!

  36. Thank you, thank you, thank you! One of the best things I have come across in a LONG time…the feeling I got in my heart from just reading it was amazing…blessings.

  37. I definitely needed this . God directed me right here and I’m definitely taking these steps to healing my heart. Thank you so much

  38. The link to your site was forwarded to me by my sister Theresa. I am grateful God’s grace led her to your site, that she forwarded the link to me AND that by God’s grace I took the time to read it! Now I pray for God’s grace to “do” and apply what I have learned – Thank you!

  39. This is a great post! I am having trouble finding the worksheet that goes along with this though. Also, I was unable to sign up for the email listing.

  40. Aly you are an amazing daughter of our King! God has truly used you for the building of His kingdom. You’re so young and you have all of this exactly right already. God bless you! I am 50 years old and have held onto unforgiveness and hurt for a lot of years. Space and time have helped and I have prayed for God to help to let go and forgive but never went through this process you describe. It seems to be exactly what I need to truly let go of the past and to deal with issues of insecurity that I thought would go away as I got older. You are a perfect example of what satan meant for evil God used for GOOD! Thank you for your post!

  41. Hi Aly
    Thanks for this post.
    I followed this process through regarding recent rifts with friends. I do need to find friends who don’t bully me and I do need to be that friend to myself and others. Sadly the friendships are no longer for now. The lie was ” I am not worthy of love.” Apparently those friends also believed the same lie. We’ve just gone about fulfilling it in different ways. They used bossy control and I used codependent ( weak) control. It’s a huge relief to go through the forgiveness. I look forward to the healings of our characters and who knows one day our friendships. x

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