Just give it up.
We hear it all the time. Let go, and let God.
But what does that even mean?
“You want me to let go of this problem that is consuming me and just give it up? If I knew how do you really think it would still be consuming me? How do you even do that? Do you just stop and forget about it? Am I supposed to tuck it under a rug and go on with my life like nothing happened? Am I just supposed to move on? Is this literal, or mental? Do I physically have to do something to LET GO? Obviously, if this problem is on my mind there is an actual reason and you are telling me to let it go???”
We have all been there. We hear the words LET GO and LET GOD and we are like, “Whelp, let me get right on that. Don’t you think if I knew how to do that, it would already be gone?”
So in this post I am going to break it down for you, exactly how to let go and let God. This is a simple but difficult process. The difficulty lies in surrendering our hearts and circumstances to God. This step by step guide can help you release your issue to God, but you have to be willing.
First off, let’s be clear! You cannot let go of something by ignoring it! You cannot dust something under the rug and move on. Well, of course you can but it won’t be very successful. It will eventually creep back up in some other area of your life. Trust me, I have tried this and failed. Ignoring problems is never a solution. Ignoring problems only makes root issues worse. The enemy wants us to think it is ok to ignore and move on, so we can be kept in bondage. That way he can use it later in your life to shame or guilt you.
If you stuff and stuff your heart with things that you keep ignoring, it will get full and explode. We need to get the junk out! We need to stay cleaned out so God can live there. Which is why we need to learn how to let go and let God.
We are looking for FREEDOM and in freedom we have VICTORY. In order to experience freedom we need to feel to heal. We actually have to deal with things (ugh I know, who wants to feel the pain?) But feeling is therapeutic. Let’s be people who feel all the junk so we can get rid of all the junk.
This guide is written with the understanding that God is Jesus. The Holy Spirit is the true healer and comforter. He is the one that sets us free. He is the one that helps us heal. We NEED His power and grace to experience victory.
Each step of this guide can be as in depth as you need. You can do this process in your head for small problems that occur. For bigger issues that are heavy on your heart, take some extra time and care on each step. If you still find yourself hung up. Repeat the process. Growth is ongoing.
*Credit due: This process was revealed to me by a process I learned through training at New Life Spirit Recovery.
The How to Guide to Let Go and Let God
Let’s identify what circumstance we are working on. Pinpoint exactly which situation/person/thing is causing your heart trouble. If you have a whole lot going on you may need to break this up in smaller sections. Only look at one situation at a time. This way you can really release it. If your boss is irritating you, your husband is not meeting your needs, and your best friend found a great sale without telling you, I would suggest doing each circumstance separately. Each situation needs its own healing. Identify the situation going on. The first step in releasing a problem, is identifying the problem.
Time to pray in the big guy. Y’all we can’t do this on our own! We need His power to overcome. Honestly, what we do in our own strength is obsess over problems or sweep it under the rug. We honestly don’t have the strength to deal with these things on our own. That is why we need a savior. We need the true counselor in every situation. Invite Him into this one. We are made strong in our weakness.
Prayer- Lord God, I invite you into this moment. I praise you for being the true healer and the true comforter! I ask your Holy Spirit to guide me and be with me in this moment of evaluation. Please reveal whatever needs to come to the surface. Please expose lies from the enemy and heal my heart with your truth. I need your Holy spirit power to overcome this situation. I praise you for the healing that is about to happen. Cleanse my heart. In Jesus name, Amen.
Now let’s evaluate the situation. This is the juicy section. Go back in time with God and run through what happened in this situation. Try journaling or writing it out. You can write down the stories in full detail or you can mentally just evaluate the circumstance. My experience writing is healing. Try picking up a pen and go where The Holy Spirit leads you. Pay attention to your feelings, how you dealt with them and what the circumstance told you. Don’t avoid the negative feelings. Focus in on these!
4. Check Yo heart
Time to do a heart check. Evaluate your feelings. Take a good mental look at your feelings, at your actions, and at what this circumstance told your heart. Try to get deep here. If you just touch the surface you will only receive healing on the surface. In this world we pick up a lot of lies. Examine what you felt and what lies may have come to surface. These lies could come from how you perceived the situation or what actually transpired. We want to catch these lies as soon as we start to hear them. For example: If your daughter cut your hair it may have told you the lie that you are not beautiful. If your husband isn’t meeting your needs it may cause you to feel rejected and unloved. Your boss didn’t like your idea you may have felt inadequate or worthless. Dig deep here. This takes honesty and vulnerability. Be honest with yourself. Feeling the pain will help you heal from the pain. Write these lies down.
5. Get an Eternal Perspective
Examine this situation from God’s eyes. Remember this is just between you and God. Ask God to strip off your blinders and let you see the situation through His eyes. Look for all the brokenness. Look for the spiritual side of the situation. Don’t forget that God is love and grace. See the situation through love and grace like He does.
Next we want to correct those lies! Look at all the lies this situation caused in your heart. Look at all the feelings you perceived. Take those lies that you wrote down and compare them to God’s truth. What God says about you is truth. What the bible says about you is truth. Who God says who you are, is real. Your identity is in God. So take those lies and turn them into a truth. Those lies are from the pits of hell. Those lies are false. The battle is in our mind. And we need to rebuke those lies. We have to take every thought captive to live a free life. The only thing that battles lies is knowing the truth.
For example: Lie: My husband’s not meeting my needs I feel unloved. Truth: The God of the universe loves me unconditionally. 1 John 3:1 See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are.
Forgiveness is an act of obedience. We are called to forgive. God has forgiven us for so much, so we are called to forgive others. You will not find healing in a situation until you forgive.
Ask yourself: Was there other people in this circumstance that you need to forgive? Do you need to forgive yourself? Do you need to accept God’s forgiveness?
Sometimes we can’t even understand how we can forgive a person. But forgiveness is supernatural. Forgiveness is an act. It is a choice to pray for someone. It is a choice to humble ourselves enough to forgive. Sometimes you won’t even feel the heart change. But the decision of forgiving someone will start to heal your heart. I recommend writing a letter to whomever you are forgiving. (This can even be yourself.) And then praying for the person. It is REALLY hard to stay upset at someone after you pray for them. No need to go and tell the person, unless you are called. Forgiveness is not saying you’re sorry. It is the decision to forgive, which can stay with you and God. This step is just between you and God.
Release this whole situation to God. Pray over the event, the lies you rebuked, and the truth you claim. Pray over your heart and ask God to come in ALL of it. Ask Him to cleanse your heart of this situation. Give God permission to take this from you. Pray out loud over this situation. Out loud, so the enemy can hear he no longer has control over this area!
Prayer- Lord Jesus, I thank you for your grace. I thank you that by your stripes I am healed. I lift this circumstance up to you. I am laying this burden at the foot of the cross. I pray for you to have your way in it. I give you permission to take this from me. I thank you for revealing all the lies this circumstance brought up. I rebuke those lies. If I gave the enemy any permission at all in my heart, I pray you would remove it by the blood of Jesus. I thank you that by the blood, I am covered. I claim my identity in you. I claim these truths (insert truths here.) I ask your grace to be poured down. I am choosing to forgive _________. I thank you for giving me the opportunity to heal and grow in you. I praise you for being bigger than my circumstance. In Jesus Name. Amen
If necessary repeat process. I would love to tell you that once you go through this you will never have to deal with it again. But we are human and growing is an ongoing process. Sometimes we have to keep peeling off layers to find true freedom. Remember that if this issue comes up again, it is covered by the blood. You can tell the enemy to get off your back that this is already God’s!
I have attached a (freebie) worksheet that you can use to break down these steps. If you are like me, you will need a ton of extra paper to work through it. I honestly think the process of letting go & letting God should be done on a daily basis. We need to stay cleaned out in this world. And let’s get honest sometimes this world is ROUGH. The goal is to make this a habit! So you can get to the point that when issues come up, you can release them to God, right away in your mind. We identify, we pray, we walk down memory lane, we recognize lies, we rebuke those lies, we claim truth, we forgive, we release, and we heal.
This blog is about living for victory. We already have the victory in Him it is just learning to claim it. To live in victory we have to be intentional about growing up in God. We only consistently heal when we consistently grow. We can not get complacent. I am praying this guide helps you release issues to God so you can stay cleaned out and be fruitful with on going healing.
Take action: I am challenging you right now to do this! Let go & let God! Go through this process on something that has been on your mind. And then leave me a comment to tell me what you experienced. Is this a process you will continue? I would love to hear the ways that you release issues to God! If you have any tips for us, please leave a comment.
I dare you to do this once a day for the next five days and tell me how your walk has changed.
Scripture this post is based on:
“Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens.” -Psalm 68:19
“Be careful for nothing, but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep you hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”- Philippians 4:6-7
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:31-32
“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”- John 8:32
“Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”- 1Peter 5:7